Thursday, March 23, 2006

2006: Trying year for couples?

I can't keep track how many times John comes home to tell me some bad news about a couple we know. So-and-so and so-and-so have split up. It always stuns me for a second. Since the beginning of the year, at least five long-term couples (married and non) have dissolved. For some couples, it was clear that someone had to make a choice between career and partner, with that someone choosing career, and the other refusing or unable to make the sacrifices to keep the relationship going (probably still loving the former very deeply, but not willing to do a big relocation or give up his/her own successful career or lifestyle). For the other couples, I can only speculate. Two people can love each other and be committed to each other for a long time, but if one evolves in a certain direction and the other hasn't evolved also in a compatible way, a gulf can be created. Or the differences that attracted them to each other in the first place have grown so great that instead of feeling attraction, it's repulsion. There can be a million other possible reasons for a break-up. It's so complicated.

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